Improving Behaviors: Reacting

Spiritual: Improving behaviors: Reacting

Ok people do things, circumstances change…whatever the IT is it’s not what we wanted/expected.

Option I:

  1. Respond immediately on impulse, emotion

  2. Our goal: to be right, for the other party to be wrong

  3. Consequence: succumbing to anger won’t make us feel better, it won’t make others understand our side any better which just makes us more resentful feel worse… it cannot heal us and we dont get what we want.

Option II:

  1. Respond: but first take a few seconds to understand what is happening, you may ask a question to buy you some time

  2. Our goal: to get what we want from the conversation. Its all about me not about the other person. In this scenario the other party’s opinion, whether they are right or wrong does not matter much. What matters is that I make the best of it for me. I am not responsible for what that person thinks, whether they are right or wrong. I am not responsible for educating them. That is their responsibility. The only thing that matters is my personal growth.

MY LIFE IS ABOUT MY SPIRITUAL GROWTH

I AM NOT REPONSIBLE FOR THE SPIRITUAL GROWTH OF OTHERS